I've been with this girl for five years, through most of college. We're both 25 yrs old. We lost our virginity to each other, we've talked about marriage.. even having kids someday. I've had my chances, but never cheated on her. SERIOUSLY. A couple of close calls, but I never pulled the trigger and I'm very proud of it.
Last weekend, a friend of mine rented a lake house for his bachelor
party, so I was gonna be out of town doing the Guy thing. The lake is
about 40 minutes outside of the city, so I wouldn't be far.
While me and the guys were partying at the lake house, my phone went
off (it was my girlfriend's number), and I answered it only to hear
giggling, "flirty" talk and kissing noises. Listening closely, I knew
it was her voice talking to some guy. She had pocket-called me by
mistake and didn't realize the phone was on.
I was shaking but listened until the phone cut off for whatever
reason. It was the worst feeling, like my legs went all rubbery and I
told my friend at the party what just happened. Pretty soon, all the
guys rallied around me telling me to call the bitch and confront her.
One of them said if I called her, she'd just deny it and make up a lie--
I also agreed and felt I should do it in person. Since I was drunk, my
buddy drove me to her apartment and her car was there, lights were on,
so I knew she had some guy over at her place.
I admit that I became a creeper and looked in through one of the
windows. I hope none of you ever go through what I felt in that moment,
because it is worse than dying-- I could clearly see that she was
giving this douchebag a blowjob. I won't go into it, but I was too
shocked and sick to do anything at the time, so I got back into the car
and we drove back to the lake house. The rest of the weekend, I was
just physically ill and ruined the vibe at the party.
I haven't said anything to her yet because after the shock came the
anger. It's wrong, but the next time I saw her, I secretly went through
her phone and found txt msg's-- the guy's name is Theo and apparently
ALL they're about is the sex. There weren't any phone calls from this
guy, it seems like they just talk through txt's, which is weird. Every
single txt msg was sexual in nature, stuff she never said or even did
Long story short, I'm angry, my life is fucking ruined and she has
the nerve to ask me what's wrong with me lately. It's been hard not to
just come out and expose her, but I wanted to clearly think it through
before throwing away the past 5 years of my life with this person.
Except I CAN'T think clearly. I'm mad and all I can think about is
getting revenge and hurting her in the same way.
I decided that Valentine's Day was the perfect day to go through with
it, but since I'd caught her cheating last week I hadn't thought to get
reservations anywhere. I managed to get a
spot for us at a really nice restaurant by the lake (I live in Austin).
I told my girlfriend that I'd come over to her apartment before we
went out and make some drinks while she got ready.
I had already packed all of her stuff from my own apartment,
including the expensive face cream she keeps (and yeah, I jerked off
into it so she'll be wearing my facial everyday for months, it was an
idea inspired by one of the comments here). I put all of her crap in a
travel bag and drove over to her apartment. I left the bag in the car
and went in. She busted out some glasses and bottles of liquor for me
to make drinks and then got in the shower. While she was in there, I
grabbed the bag from my car and put it in her closet. I also hid a
3-pack of condoms in the bag but only left two rubbers in it. She'll
probably find them, think I left them accidentally and always wonder if I
cheated on her-- we lost our virginity to eachother and never used
She was still in the shower during this time and I grabbed her
cellphone and deleted myself from it. I also looked up "Theo" in her
contacts and changed his phone number to mine, for later. After that, I
made her a vodka sprite and spit in it a few times. I had a big shot
of vodka and waited for her, and when she was dressed we had our drinks.
I hate to admit it but she looked really good, so I talked her into
giving me some oral as a "warmup for tonight". A lot of the
comments told me I should tap it one last time, and I agreed. I made
her gag "accidentally" a few times right in the same spot I'd seen her
blowing the other guy.
When I was done, I told her that my car was acting funny, so we should take hers instead. I drove us to the restaurant.
This was the part of the date that was supposed to be perfect.
We had dinner and wine and I went out of my way to make everything seem
normal, giving her the perfect Valentine's dinner. We talked about
vacations we'd taken together and how we'd like to go back, I brought up
old memories and made her laugh. I asked her
where she wanted to be in five years, and she said hopefully married by
then. It was hard at times but I was already committed to finishing it.
We were done eating so I excused myself to the bathroom to wash my
hands. From there, I made a call to my best friend and told him to pick
me up in half an hour. That's all the time I was ever going to give the
heartless bitch again.
I came out of the bathroom and paid the bill (give me SOME credit for
being a gentleman still) and suggested we take a walk along the lake. There was a little dock nearby and we stood on it, and my hands were
shaking but I finally called her out.
I asked her if there was anything she wanted to tell me. She looked
confused and played it off very well, if I hadn't seen it with my own
eyes I probably would have believed her. I let her lie to me and then
told her that I knew about Theo, that she'd accidentally called me and
I'd caught them fucking around. I told her I'd found him on facebook and
seen his fucking bragging updates. While I was telling her this, she
started bawling, and I've gotta admit that I was crying a
little too. But I kept going and told her how much she'd hurt me, and
that I'd been throwing up all week and sick about it. The only thing
she kept saying was that she was sorry, the rest of the time she was
crying and almost hyperventaling. She would try to interrupt but I kept
telling her to let me finish.
I wasn't too sure if I was gonna do this part of the plan but I had
nothing else to lose so I said fuck it. I told her that I honestly
believed she was the girl I was going to spend the rest of my life with
(which was true) and pulled out a jewelry ring box from my coat. I'd
gotten it the day before for about $15 in the same gas station as the
condoms. I didn't open the box because the ring looked totally cheap,
but I told my girlfriend I'd had it for awhile but wasn't going to
need it anymore. I threw the box into the lake and it totally looked
real because of the tears in my eyes.
She hadn't stopped crying this whole time and was pulling at me and
begging me to listen to her and let her talk, over and over again. I
don't know how else to describe it, she was having a total feakout and I
decided it was the perfect time to walk away.
I told her there was nothing to talk about and nothing she could
say-- I never wanted to see her again or talk to her. I told her that
I'd left a bag of her stuff in her closet, and if she left anything else
to have a friend come get it. I even mentioned that I'd noticed a
"bump on me" and was going to the doctor this week and suggested she do
the same. I made it clear that this was the last time we would ever talk
to eachother, and then gave her the keys to her car back and said
"goodbye". She tried to hug me and kept saying "forgive me" but I knew
better and backed off.
I walked away and left her there at the dock. My friend was waiting
outside the restaurant, and I got in the car with him and went to pick
up my car back at her place. While we were on the way, I followed
through with the last part of my plan: I sent her a txt message, which
she would now think was from Theo since I'd switched numbers. It said,
"wtf, your boyfriend emailed me and knows about us. i dont want this
drama, don't call or txt me again. seriously." She still hasn't written
Yeah, she'll eventually figure it out and think I'm immature, but I
honestly don't give a shit anymore. The person who suggested the txt
message plan was right-- it's like she got dumped TWICE on Valentine's
Day, and you can't say she doesn't deserve it.
So there it is. I did it and actually feel relieved, but a little
in shock now. This has literally been the worst week of my life, and I'm
not sure how I'll handle it. But I'm glad that I reached out, even if
it was to strangers. I can't thank you enough for the majority of you
out there being helpful and understanding.
And if all this makes me a dick, I'm prepared to live with it. At
least I did something and didn't just get trampled and pitied.